How to have sex for 30 minutes or longer

How long does your intercourse last?

If you don't want to talk, here's what the statistics say: the average length of intercourse is about 5-7 minutes, but half of all guys can't last longer than a couple of minutes.

When you ask guys about this anonymously, they admit it. The most popular answer in an anonymous survey on Reddit with the subject "How long can you last?" was 1-2 minutes.

And that's a big problem.

According to feedback, the ideal length of sex is between 10 and 25 minutes, but 80% of guys can't last that long.

Both men and women would like sex to last longer, but guys don't have the sexual stamina to do it.

I've had this problem. I tried EVERYTHING to deal with it and among tons of shitty internet advice and articles from people who have never had this problem I found something that works. You can divide this article into several steps:

Step one is the psychological factors that affect the length of sex.

The second is exercises you can do to keep going longer.

And finally, step three - what to do during sex to last as long as possible.
Step One: Worry Less and Don't Worry

If you start with the idea that you won't last long, you won't last. Going into it with anxiety about your abilities is a sure way to cum much sooner than you'd like. Biologically it's completely understandable, insecurity adds anxiety, your body understands when you're worried. So what you're experiencing right now tells you that it's not very safe to lie here naked with your eyes closed, unprepared for an encounter with one of these kinds of guests.

So what does the body do when you get anxious during sex? It simply reduces the time you have to spend so unprotected with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction in general.

The only remedy is confidence and positive thinking.

But what's the best way to achieve that confidence? Just talk to your partner.

If you talk about your problems and insecurities with your partner, she will not think worse of you because of this, quite the opposite, you want to improve your sex life together, you want to improve it with her.

There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you'll find that just talking openly about it solves half of all problems in and of themselves.

No partner? No problem, you can easily work out without one.

Step Two: Daily Exercise

You only need to do a couple of things to control your ejaculation: Kegel exercises and practice masturbation.  you can watch porn to masturbate. Free Russian Homemade Porn There is a recommended porn video at this link.

Exercise 1: Regular and reverse Kegel exercises (less than 10 minutes a day)

The best way to improve ejaculation control is to strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. Makes sense, right? Strengthening comes through regular and reverse Kegel exercises that train your pelvic floor muscles to help you better control ejaculation.

If you've never heard of Kegel exercises, I translated an article about them last time.


Exercise 2: Masturbation and edging (the "on the edge" technique, 10-30 minutes a day)

If you want to keep going longer, you'll have to start jerking off differently :)

A lot of guys who have problems with intercourse time have trapped themselves in the way they masturbate. If the usual way for you is to open a porn warehouse on your PC or get on some Pornhub, start jerking off violently and cum in a minute or two, then yes, it's unlikely you'll be able to last much longer with a real partner.

Here are the new rules for masturbation: at least 10 minutes. I don't care if you spend 8 of them just staring at your dick, you can't cum before 10 minutes. Once you get used to that time, go up to 15, 20 minutes.

Now, what to do for those 10 minutes.

If a guy is cumming fast during sex, it's because his "pleasure schedule" looks like this:

This is accomplished with a technique known as "edging" or "on the edge" technique (always loved English for its succinct one-word definitions).

Here's how it works:

1. Start masturbating and go up about 7 on the "arousal scale" (you will just have to judge your sensations subjectively and decide how it feels, with experience it will become clearer, as usual).

2. stop and let the arousal drop to 5.

3. Now go up to 8, stop and go down to 6.

4. Up to 9 and down to 7.

5. Up to 9.5 and down again to 7. 9.5 is right before the point of no return, the point at which you can do nothing more and cum.

6. Repeat the 9.5-7 cycle until 10 minutes have passed, then you can finally allow yourself to orgasm, which you will find will be MUCH more intense and pleasurable.

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As you become more and more aroused, don't forget to apply the SIDE techniques to calm down somewhat:

1. Squeeze: Forcefully squeeze your pelvic floor muscles as if you were doing an intense kegel exercise. Keep squeezing for at least 10 seconds, but the longer you can hold them, the more you'll calm down. (A few shorter squeezes of 5 seconds each or lots of quick second squeezes can also help.)

2. Thinking: this is a classic, distract yourself and think about something else.

3. Avoiding: Change the way you jerk off, avoid the head and keep going instead of stopping completely

4. Breathing: Breathe deeply with your diaphragm (belly).


Ideally you should combine these techniques to get more control over ejaculation, but it is better to start with one and then add the others one by one until you have mastered them completely. Set aside 20 minutes each night to practice, more is better.

If you have a partner, it is better to do this exercise with her, tell her what you are doing and ask her to participate, either with her hands/mouth or with classic but very slow sex with lots of stops. It will be very hard to stop when the arousal reaches 9.5, but trust me, this kind of workout is worth it.

Plus, it's very enjoyable and fun👅

Step Three: Techniques for having more sex

If you're working out, that means you'll probably already last significantly longer in bed than usual, but you can go even further. The following 4 strategies will help you have sex much longer, we'll just transfer the same principles and exercises from masturbation to sex.


Strategic Foreplay Planning.

Foreplay often takes place in this order because women usually expect men to be the initiators of the next stage of sex:


Kissing/touching → Cunnilingus → Blowjob → Sex


There is one obvious problem with this sequence: we go from oral stimulation straight to sex, it doesn't work that way. We want to start sex at an arousal level of 4-5, not 8. Here's what we need to do. You've already talked to your partner about wanting to learn not to cum longer (if not, shame on you!), so tell her it would be better if you bring her to orgasm first with your hands to warm her up, then a blow job, then a cunny, and then the actual sex.



Kissing/touching → Her orgasm from your hands → Blow job → Cunnilingus → Sex

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When you get a blow job, after you've reached 9.5 on the arousal scale several times (the same "on the edge" technique, only in this case you yell "Stop!" at the peak moment), switch sides so you have time to cool down a bit while you lick her. This "cooling off" period with minimal stimulation will greatly increase your sex time. Or if your body allows you and you quickly come off orgasm, you can try to cum during the blow job and recover by the start of sex itself, doing her cunny. It's up to you.

Also tell her to press on your muscle that you train during Kegel exercises (the bulbous spongy muscle, located between the balls and the anus, more details in a previous article) with two or three fingers during a blow job, this will help you hold on longer and just feel good, but it is hard to do during, actually, sex.

Using different positions during the "on the edge" technique✌

It is not difficult to apply this technique during foreplay, but during sex it is another matter. You don't want to constantly stop and start moving, it will irritate your partner and you yourself will be worried about cumming before the time.

Instead, you can apply this technique by changing positions.

Some poses will raise your arousal faster, some not as quickly. It depends on:

1. friction (more friction means faster, logically)

2. The direction of movement (e.g. if she's on top of you - faster, if she's squirming and rubbing - slower)

3. Control (if you move, faster, if she moves, slower)

4. Your posture (standing is the slowest, and when you support yourself with your hands - missionary pose, for example - that's the fastest).

So, the classic missionary position with her legs spread relatively wide apart, (more friction) plus you moving, supporting yourself with your hands, brings a lot of stimulation and you cum earlier than you would like. On the other hand a position where her legs are spread wide apart and you are on your feet or knees will be less stimulating. It's the same story if she's on top and moving back and forth instead of up and down. You will need to find strong- and weak-stimulating positions. As long as you are at an arousal level of 5-6, use strong-stimulating, and then move on to weak-stimulating when you are aroused to 8-9, and while you are changing positions, squeeze your intimate muscles.


Slow diaphragmatic breathing.

The way you breathe also affects how fast you approach orgasm.

Many people have heard how you can make your mood improve just by smiling, so you can also make yourself more or less aroused by breathing differently.

If you want to reduce agitation and excitement, slow down your breathing and breathe deeply, using your belly and diaphragm. Frequent chest breathing is the way we breathe when approaching orgasm, so if you breathe this way, your body will think we are close.


Chest Breathing and Diaphragm Breathing

Just breathe as if you're calm - and you'll stay calm.

"Clutching your last hope" when you're already too close to orgasm

The first three tips will help you stay within 5-9 on the arousal scale, but what do you do if you've gotten to 9.9 and think nothing will help you not cum anymore?

That's exactly what we've been training our intimate muscles for. If you've made them strong enough, all you have to do to move away from the "point of no return" is to stop moving and squeeze your muscles FORCEDLY as if you were doing a long Kegel exercise (or a combination of shorter squeezes, if that works better for you)

The longer you squeeze, the farther you get from the point of no return. With practice, you will learn how to get from 9.9 to 6-7 in a few seconds and that will give you an extra 5 minutes.

There is, however, one nuance: the closer you were to orgasm, the better it works, so at first there may be misfires and you will still cum, but, again, with practice you will determine the right moment more and more accurately. Watching russian sex videos will make you nervous


Move on!

That's it. The psychological aspect, 2 exercises to keep yourself in good sexual shape, 3 techniques to control the speed of arousal and a strong squeeze in the last seconds before orgasm as an emergency measure. That's all it takes to control your orgasm and achieve great sex.

Remember, it's all about practice and practice. Do the exercises, openly tell your partner what you're doing and why, and the results will be evident after just a month. Good luck!